Mental and Emotional (ME) strength is not about intelligence. It’s about courage, perseverance, flexibility, and personal power. Good and bad stuff happens to everyone. What you do about “what happened” defines how strong your (ME) strength really is.
So, why do we care if we’re strong mentally and emotionally? The stronger your (ME) strength, the happier your life will be. If you ask any person, a friend or a random stranger if they want a happy or unhappy life, they will invariably say “happy.” Since (ME) strength is a requirement for a happy life, I’d say it’s a pretty important idea to fully understand.
The good news is that even if you developed some habits in the past that have been preventing you from having the happy life you want, you can start fresh today. The hard to do news is you have to first accept that whatever has happened in your life so far cannot be changed and is in the past.
If you can do that… not forget what happened, but instead replace the destructive habit of reliving the past with some new things to do and look forward to… then you’re on your way.
Rather than tell you what to do to have happy (ME) strength, it seems more effective to tell you what not to do. It’s destructive habits that keep both your (ME) strength and your happiness level down.
When you read the list below of 10 things not to do, you may find yourself recognizing that you do some of them. You will build your (ME) strength and have a happier life by deciding to stop doing any one or more of them.
People Who Are Mentally and Emotionally Strong Don’t:
1. They don’t feel sorry for themselves for very long
2. They don’t let other people’s actions dictate how they feel
3. They don’t obsess about things that they can’t control
4. They don’t try to please everyone
5. They don’t keep rehashing the past
6. They don’t resent when someone else is successful
7. They don’t give up
8. They have patience — They don’t expect immediate results
9. They don’t mind being alone
10. They don’t think they’re owed or entitled to things without effort
So what do you think? Can you believe that a happy life does not necessarily mean an easy life? Can you believe that you can endure many, many difficult and tragic events and still have a good life? Can you believe that happiness and a good life belong to people who have (ME) strength?
The list above is an excellent check-list to determine your current (ME) strength. It’s also a really good gauge of how happy you are. Dump any of the negative 10 “not to do” habits on the list and your happiness in life will rise along with your (ME) strength.
Ok. It takes a conscious decision to change a habit, but you can start today. If you want to dump any of the 10, consciously decide to.
If having a happier life is important to you, you now have a check-list of what not to do. If you stop doing the stuff on the check-list, you’ll have time and energy to do the stuff that creates a sense of acceptance, peace and happiness. You can do it. It’s your life, and a high (ME) strength will give you a full sense of your infinite worth and value.